Love Sucks

why is it so hard to get closure after ending a relationship? Dealing with the person becomes a necessity when there are children involved. try as i might, it is so hard to shield and protect my heart from the one person who had it for 3 years. why is it that just when you think your heart can't hurt anymore something comes along and its like the hole has been ripped open again. this might be a pity post. it might not. all i know is that i'm tired of hurting. i don't want to be one of those women who becomes bitter after heartbreak but i can see how it happens. and why is it that the heart refuses to listen to the mind when you tell it not to care anymore? how do you just stop loving/caring about someone after all that time?????? guess that's the million dollar question...